You Get Wiser About Dating when You Get Older

I really did not date much in college because I wanted to focus on school. And when I finally did start dating someone and had a long-term relationship with him, he ended up dumping me when I was not very interested in getting intimate with me. It really hurt my feelings that someone would do that. Later, when I got out of school, I ended up buying some sex toys so that I could learn how not to be so shy for future dating relationships. It worked.

I am not looking to have intimacy with everyone that I date. IN fact, I have no real interest, except for what I hope is a future marriage. My main goal is to meet as many as possible and find the person who will be best for me as a partner for life. I was always someone who has been very independent, and I do not want to spend my time in an unhappy marriage with the wrong person. I know that many people learn that they really did not know who they were looking for until they got much older and learned what the right traits to look for in a spouse.

When I did date as a younger person, I would often say “yes” to a date simply because a person asked me to go out to dinner or a movie. I had not yet learned the subtle art of saying “no” when you don’t really care to date that person. I have no idea why it took me so long to figure out how to say it. I guess that I did not really want to hurt people, and because I did not go out much, I figured I should not miss any opportunities. Now I am much more choosy, and that turns out to work out well.

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My Year of Studies in Edinburgh, Scotland

Having an opportunity to study for your degree at a university in another country is a rare privilege for students at my income level. I decided before I was a teenager that I was going to pay my way through school as much as I could without getting any loans. I made sure my high school career made me eligible for as many grants as I could get. I used student loans as a last resort. I saved every penny I could, and found myself one day looking at student flats in Edinburgh to rent for a full year of studying abroad.

I could not believe that I was actually going to be living in Scotland for an entire 12 months. I was enrolled in classes for the full year, and I had to have a place to stay. I did not want to live in a dormitory, but I could not afford an apartment, or flat as they say, that was fully private. The student flats in Edinburgh are a very nice compromise, but you do have to be choosy about what landlord you pick. The places I looked at were all very clean and had nice furnishings. The kitchen and common area were more than suitable. I shared a bathroom space with another person. They were clean and courteous, so it was not a problem at all. Much better than my short dormitory experience I had back home at college.

I got used to the routines of life in Scotland. I knew it was going to make it hard to adjust when I got back. It seemed that things were at a much faster pace back home. I actually had time to relax and reflect on some of the things that I was learning. I enjoyed my time and where I stayed. I am looking forward to visiting again soon.

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Losing Weight to Gain Better Health

I started eating unhealthy when I was a freshman in college. It was my first time to be away from home for more than a day or two, plus home was now nearly 800 miles away. I took comfort in food, and I slowly started to gain weight. Even worse than gaining the weight was gaining such poor eating habits. I no longer ate vegetables every day, and pizza became a main staple for me. When I went past 200 pounds when I was just 28 years old, I knew I needed to find ways to eat healthy before I ate myself into an early grave.

Prior to college, I ate healthy meals, and I actually enjoyed them. I knew that I could get back to eating that way, but I also knew that I was going to need some help since my mom was still over 800 miles away. She did help me a lot over email and video chats, but I also found a great website that was filled with great information about the right kinds of foods to eat. It was exactly what I needed, and I was able to pick up a lot of valuable information from the site.

One of the things that I learned was how addicting sugar can be. It was one of my main food sources in college, and it also heavily contributed to my poor eating habits. It was just easier to slide a dollar into the vending machine outside my dorm room instead of going to the cafeteria to have healthier options. The more dollars I fed to the candy machine, the more dependent I became on the sugar. It was interesting reading about sugar addiction, and it was even more fascinating cutting those ties. I have lost nearly 30 pounds so far, so I am definitely on the right track.

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Why the Tree Service is So Important to Us

When my first son was born, my husband and I planted a very small sapling in the back yard. We enjoyed watching it grow as our son grew bigger and bigger. It was always his tree, just as the other one was always his little sister’s tree that was planted two years later. When we decided to sell our house and head to Florida, our son asked if he could buy it. That actually delighted us, because leaving those two trees was one of the hardest parts of leaving the house. We have had the same Queens tree services company taking care of them for a while now, so we gave that information to our son when we gave him the deed to the house.

We knew that he would continue the tradition of taking care of the two trees, as well as the others that are on the property as well. The reason we had them pruned on a regular basis was because it kept them even healthier than what they were without the pruning. That is the thing that a lot of people don’t understand about trees. If they are taken care of and pruned on a regular basis, they are going to be healthier and stronger than ever.

We moved to Florida nearly a year ago, and we took a trip back to the house last month. It was our first time to come back home since moving, since both of our kids and their families decided that them traveling to Florida to visit us was even better. One of the first things we did was look at the two trees in the back yard, and it just made our hearts swell with love when we saw how well our son was taking care of them. That is just one family tradition that is really important to all of us!

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